The Zen Machine | 3 minutes

For most people, their car is a source of stress. You get stuck in traffic and cut off, your kids are screaming at you, and, in general, a lot of people's safety, including your own, is in your hands when you’re holding the wheel.

I'm turning my experiences behind the wheel to transform my car into a Zen machine, a state of calm and peace amidst the chaos of the road.

It doesn't work all the time, but I'm driving towards that goal and thought you might want to join me on the ride.

For me, my journey began when I was stuck in traffic and getting frustrated with not being able to do something more productive.

That's when I realized meditating is productive.

I took a moment of reflection and turned a stressful situation where I was focusing on where I wanted to be, into a relaxing situation where I was focusing on where I was right there and then instead.

By choosing to be calm, I took control of my driving experience. I couldn't change the traffic or the behaviour of other drivers, but I could decide how I reacted to it. This sense of control made a significant difference in my stress levels.

Since then, I’ve incorporated several other tools to help turn the car into a Zen machine:

• I plan ahead, always use the GPS to give me the best route, and leave early so I have lots of time.

• If I get cut off instead of thinking "what a jerk," I force myself to think of a whole bunch of other scenarios like "maybe they’re late picking up their kid. I know that would make me stressed too." I let people in and let them take the parking space closer. I like walking anyway.

• I rediscovered podcasts and audiobooks. They sure help make the time in your car feel productive and keep your mind off traffic. One time, I sat in my car for an extra 5 minutes to finish a chapter in an audiobook.

I hate being late, especially when people are waiting for me. Sometimes, you can't control that. However, by turning my car into a Zen machine, I’m usually a lot happier when I finally get to my destination.

The Pebble

Print this postcard, drop it in your glovebox as a reminder to stay calm amid the chaos. Focus on what’s inside the circle. Control what you can, ignore the rest.

How to turn your car into a zen machine (for you)

• Play a calming playlist with slow, steady rhythms.

• Use a car-safe essential oil diffuser with lavender or peppermint.

• Keep your phone face down and on Do Not Disturb.

• Practice slow, deep breathing at red lights.

• Keep snacks and water handy so you’re not driving hangry.

• Notice three things you see, hear, and feel to stay present.

• Adjust your seat and mirrors for maximum comfort and minimal strain.

With kids, it can get even more complicated (especially if they can’t watch screens due to your rules or because you don’t want to scrub the seats again).

Here are some options of what you can do in the car with kids.

Games to play with kids in the car

• I spy – One person picks something they see, gives the first letter, and everyone guesses until someone gets it.

• 20 questions – Think of an animal, person, or thing, and let the others guess with yes/no questions.

• The alphabet game – Find objects or signs outside starting with each letter of the alphabet in order.

• Story chain – One person starts a story with one sentence, and each person adds to it as you go around.

• Would you rather? – Ask silly or thought-provoking “Would you rather…” questions and see where the conversation goes.

• License plate hunt – Spot plates from as many different provinces, states, or countries as possible.

• Sing-along battles – Pick a theme (like animals or colours) and take turns singing lines from songs that fit.

• Gratitude game – Each person shares one thing they’re thankful for that day; you soak in the positive vibes.

• Silent signals – Have a few rounds where you communicate only with hand gestures or facial expressions; kids think it’s funny, you get a noise break.

The challenge

Next time you’re driving in your car, and someone wants to go in front of you. Let them.

And when you park, park at a spot a little further away, leaving the closer spots as small, silent gifts of victory over the stress in your car.

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